Stephen Wilson Jr. was a scientist working in Mars and Inc. (Yes, candy company).
One day, his boss pulled him to the office to change his life.
« Stephen, you will be promoted. »
In general, the cause of congratulations, instead meant his boss’s warning.
In the past life, Stephen was a guitarist in a small indie rock band. He also sent a song in the evening.
His boss knew that Stephen was a good composer, and he knew where he really belonged.
He told Stephen about the golden handcuffs.
“You are in line for promotion, and they are trimming you to the next stage.
And you are at the intersection.
As I was taken 30 years ago (promotion), the dream of becoming a composer will disappear. This will consume all your bits.
Now you can write and do this, but you can’t be sure if you can do it after six months. So I want to warn you. ”
The little voice in Stephen’s head, which had been there for years, began to grow bigger.
Six weeks later, the inner voice was now informed for two weeks with the sound of deafness. All people (Excluding his boss and his wife).
He started a bartender and a waiting table to meet the end while he was polishing his crafts. « Bro Country » song:
“You are writing really sing. We can’t collapse about it… ”
A few years later, after the humble success of singing for other musicians, he finally began to have courage and experience and recording his song.
And last year he finally released his debut album. Dad’s sonRolling Stone was called one of the best albums in 2023.
Recently, Stephen is A Ben E. King’s “Stand by Me” I heard about 10,000 times last month.
(Seriously, look at this video. It will give you a goose bump!).
Golden handcuffs uncomfortable expansion
Since 2008-2010, I have also lived double.
I spent a day in the sixth man and promoted and produced a floating music festival. But I also spent the work of helping a nerd on a small website on night and weekends.
My boss April and mentor Andy (who owned business) all knew where my heart was. They encouraged me to drive out the uncomfortable future of trying to create a foolish health with my career.
16 years later, we are still getting stronger!
Oliver Burkeman’s on S 4,000 sharesHe recommends asking specific questions when making decisions in life.
« From your life or work where you are now pursuing your comfort.
If you ask yourself to make me the happiest, we will lead us to short -term, comfortable and safe options.
Instead, we must think about which paths grow us into people or what versions will be reduced every week. We probably know the answer to the question in the deep inside.
Burkeman’s advice:
« Whenever possible, choose an uncomfortable enlargement rather than a comfortable reduction. »
Yes. Sometimes chasing « uncomfortable expansion » does not lead to composition transactions or successful businesses. I chose an uncomfortable way and sometimes the situation is not solved. But it is part of the process and at least eliminates the potential of harmful regret!
I do today’s mission.
Let’s feel uncomfortable
Let’s pursue uncomfortable expansion in 2025.
- When we take a train We are forced to be uncomfortable by lifting the muscles heavier and heavier. They react by growing and adapting.
- If we use food as a mechanism When we are sad, angry or boring, it can be inconvenient to deal with the relationship with food.
- When there is an uncomfortable conversation We can finally deepen our relationships or support things that are important to us.
Let’s ask questions in 2025.
Do you live in comfort and safety in your life? depth Do you know that the way of “uncomfortable enlargement” is that you actually grow and help you get what you really want?
You don’t have to stop working immediately or you don’t have to be all -in with new goals or changes.
However, it is worth asking for uncomfortable questions.
Life is difficult and change is harder.
inconvenient.
scary.
crummy.
But if you are willing not to comfort, it can be what you need.
-Steve
P.S: We are doing a free 5 -day workshop It starts in a few days for those who want to create a new habit in 2025!
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